What I hope to do here

I am planning on this serving as a platform for some of my more intimate thoughts about life and about why I feel the way that I do. Topics will mostly be about friendships, relationships, marriage, expectations, jealousy and the like. I don't want to discuss these topics on my usual social media platform as, while I will be careful to not mention names (unless I am citing a work or referring to an incident in the news), I do want to ask questions and ponder. I have not posted on this platform in about 15 years so, I should have the required "anonymity." Yes, any decent slueth with little else to do could figure out who I am. But I am not that important. Besides, what I want to protect is the anonymity of others; I want to talk about principles, not personalities. I want to talk about grey areas, hurt feelings, jealousy, anger and envy. But I want to insult no one nor expose anyone to embarrassment or ridicule.

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