Feeling special

 My spouse was a very accomplished professional in a "people" field. She consoled, she encouraged and she listened.  And she did so in a way so that people (mostly college students) knew that they were heard.

So, folks assume that she did that at home, but, well, not really.

The old saying is that the family with the worst shoes in the village is the cobbler's family.

We were discussing and she said something to the effect that "you wanted to be special to me; for me to treat you as special"    My response: that is a very reasonable demand from a husband.  And you should have seen the look on her face; it was priceless..almost as if she could not comprehend the concept.

The bottom line is that while she is skilled with people outside the marriage, her emotional IQ in her main relationship is barely 80, borderline special needs even.  That makes it hard to live with her.

But yes, just as women want to feel special to their spouse, men do too. 

Oh, back to MY behavior.  Well, since I should be giving what I want, there are some things that *should* be reserved exclusively for her.

And, on a very positive note: we did go to a ball game and she was able to walk, with the assistance of a rollator.  She is getting stronger, which is nice to see.

Yes, we could have gotten there quicker had I just wheeled her but my pushing her in a chair isn't making her stronger.  So, I must be patient and let her work a bit. 


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